Involving children and families when someone important is dying or has died

Haraldsdottir, Erna and Paul, Sally; Cherny, Nathan I. and Fallon, Marie T. and Kaasa, Stein and Portenoy, Russell K. and Currow, David C., eds. (2021) Involving children and families when someone important is dying or has died. In: Oxford Textbook of Palliative Medicine. Oxford University Press, Oxford. ISBN 9780198821328 (https://doi.org/10.1093/med/9780198821328.003.0097)

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Abstract

The untimely death of a close family member is one of the most challenging events for families including children. This chapter discusses how a basic knowledge of child development and the ways that children understand illness and death can provide a template from which to inform families about how to help their children during this time and into bereavement. It addresses such topics as how children understand death at different ages, timing of discussions with children, decisions about the setting for end of life care and death in a family context, visiting the ill person, legacy leaving, and children’s participation in funerals and memorial services. By supporting families to anticipate common situations and questions, health and social care professionals can work with surviving adults to use their own (and the child’s) resources to provide thoughtful and meaningful care for children during this difficult time. This support encourages adults to include and involve children, using honest, child-centred communication during the illness period, at the end of life phase, at the time of death, and after death. Such communication is crucial for ongoing bereavement and family functioning.